Tuesday, June 25, 2013

The Romance Troupe Summer Blog Hop

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The Romance Troupe is hosting its first annual 
Sizzling Summer Blog Hop!
July 4th - July 7th

 Join the Romance Troupe and many other bloggers and authors as we launch our Sizzling Summer Blog Hop.  Comments as well as emails must be left and you can also increase your chances to win other prizes by continuing on the hop.  All participants are noted below.

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"Modern Day Love Excerpt"
After being divorced and single for four years Kristen Vasquez decides to move on and begin dating again.  As a single mother she now has to start all over again and accept the dating scene for what its become, a sex pool of casual one night stands, something she is just not used to nor wants but once she meets Matthew Lewis she quickly reconsiders her thoughts and follows her needs.
However, there is something she wasn't expecting.  Something that will completely take her out of her comfort zone and turn her love life into a spiral of desire she never knew about.  Matthew comes with strings and a set of rules that should make her run but somehow opens a door she is in doubt will ever close.  His lifestyle although scary, thrills and excites her and she can't seem to get enough of him.  Can his rules and needs bring them closer together or forever tare them apart?   
Hot Bath Scene...

    If this night can get any better I would truly be surprised.  Matthew was not only extremely attentive, but so very sexy as he washed every section of my body with care.  I have never had this closeness with anyone before.  The way he made me feel was a total first.  I wanted him like I wanted to breathe, always.  My body only coming to life because of a mere touch or kiss.  His lips and tongue traced my neck and shoulder as I planted my butt on his arousal.  Our breathing began to get heavier and I wanted him to take me.  Instead he pushed me into the stream and grabbed the bottle of shampoo from the shelf.  “Don’t move, he said as he opened the bottle, pulled my hair back and out of the water and poured the shampoo on my head.  With my head still tilted I can see his head as he worked the lather into my hair and washed it. 

When he was done he pushed my head up and pulled my body into him as he kissed my neck and turned me around to face him.  “Rinse it off,” he said and stepped back as I walked backwards into the stream and proceeded to rinse.  He watched with a smile as the suds cascaded down my body and over my breast.  Having him watch my every move as I now bathed him and gave him the same attentive and sensual treatment he gave me turned me on in so many levels.  His eyes opened and closed as light moans and grunts escaped his lips periodically and once again the desire to have him inside me resurfaced.

“I never wanted anyone as badly as I want you,” I said and looked up at him. “Thank you,” he replied and took a step closer.  He then grasped my waist and pulled me into him.  “I don’t think I ever wanted anyone as much either,” he said in a raspy whisper before he leaned over me, shut the water off and opened the door.   “I can take you in here or on the bed, your choice.”  “I think I’ll choose the latter,” I said as I walked past him and deliberately shook my butt as I did.  “Mmmm,” he moaned before he chased after me, tossed me on the bed, grabbed my ankle and pulled me to him as my hair dripped water all over the bed. 

Copyright ©  2013 ~Susan B. Anna

I, Susan B. Anna will be offering two prize offers for participating, just simply follow the guidelines, leave your comment and email in comment section below and if chosen I will be giving one lucky person a $15 Visa or Starbucks GC. Your choice and another lucky person a heart bracelet.  

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Monday, June 24, 2013

The Experts: The Best Way to Deal With Regrets Later in Life

The Wall Street Journal
  • May 21, 2013, 10:24 a.m. ET

The Experts: The Best Way to Deal With Regrets Later in Life

What's the best way to deal with regret so it doesn't become crippling? The Wall Street Journal put this question to The Experts, an exclusive group of industry, academic and other thought leaders who engage in in-depth online discussions of topics from the print Report. This question relates to a recent article that discussed ways to get past regrets later in life and formed the basis of a discussion in The Experts stream on Monday, May 20, 2013...

The Experts will discuss topics raised in this month's Encore Report and other Wall Street Journal Reports. Find the retirement Experts stream, recent set of interactive videos and other exciting online content at

  Also be sure watch three thought leaders—'s Marc Freedman; Hamilton Beazley, author of "No Regrets: A Ten-Step Program for Living in the Present and Leaving the Past Behind"; and Nancy Newall of the Centre on Aging at the University of Manitoba—as they discuss ways to deal successfully with life's regrets in a live video chat that aired Monday, May 20.

Morgan Fairchild: A Recipe for Misery: Try Changing the Past

All of us have regrets in life, but it's how we handle them that is important. Sometimes people look back with rose-colored glasses, instead of looking realistically at what the facts were at the time. Perhaps your choices were the best you could do at the time.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." That sums up the way we should lead our lives, but if we didn't always make the wise choice or have the courage to do what we should have, that doesn't mean we can't move forward with the rest of our lives in that manner. You cannot change the past. You can accept it and vow to make the future your chance to be the best person you can be. Dwelling on past mistakes will not fix them and will only make you miserable.

 Morgan Fairchild (@morgfair <> ) is an Emmy- and Golden Globe-nominated actress and activist supporting AIDS research, women's rights and the environment.

 Pat Sajak: Take a Cue from My Aunt Betty

It's difficult to imagine a greater waste of time than wallowing in regret. It's done. It's over. No mulligans in life. No do-overs. Perhaps it's helpful to remember that changing one thing changes everything. Even if you could wave a magic wand and alter a past event, the result could leave you wishing you had never found that wand. Whatever you'd like to have done differently, keep in mind the wise words of my Aunt Betty: "It could always be worse." It should come as no surprise that Aunt Betty was almost never invited to family events.

 Pat Sajak is the host of the television game show "Wheel of Fortune."

 Bud Hebeler: Do Something Good Today

With some people, their biggest regret late in life is the fact that they didn't save enough. With others, it's failure to keep in physical shape or have lost a spouse. But these people learn to live with their situations. It's far more difficult to cope with the fact that many feel they did not use their past years to help other people, perhaps now-deceased parents or more often children or grandchildren. It could have been financial help, or simply spending time with them, or leaving a history of their past experiences that might have been interesting or a learning experience. What's really important is to look ahead with enthusiasm and think about the future, not the past. One way to cope with the perception of past failings is to do something good today. There are so many ways one can volunteer to help others that anyone should be able to find something to do that gives them satisfaction and comfort.

Henry "Bud" Hebeler was president of the aerospace division of Boeing Co. He has served on the board of MIT's Sloan School and currently focuses on the dissemination of free, sound financial planning on

Molly Mettler: Focus on the Positives

Pangs of regret are almost inevitable. Here are two ways I deal with them. These may work for you, too. Or not.

 Reframe. Focus on what is, rather than what isn't.

One gloriously sunny Saturday not long ago, I had the pleasure of watching a spirited soccer game played by 8-year-old girls. In the course of that game, I kept a mental tally of the regretful thoughts that skittered through my consciousness. "I wish there had been youth soccer when I was a kid…I coulda been a contender." "I'll never run like that again." "I should have paid more attention to keeping flexible." "I wish I brought a chair….This ground's hard and my butt's cold."

As a serial regretter, I could have kept this up all afternoon. However, I reframed my thinking. I thought instead about what was wonderful about the day, and this brought clear and present joys into focus. It was a beautiful day and there wasn't anything I had to do but to enjoy it and my speedy, wild-haired, whooping granddaughter.

 Make amends. Offer up apologies if you've hurt someone or let someone down, especially yourself. Say you're sorry. Mean it. Move on. Repeat as needed.

 Molly Mettler (@mollykmettler <> ) is senior vice president of mission at Healthwise Inc., a nonprofit founded in 1975 with a mission to help people make better health decisions. She also serves as a fellow with the Center for Advancing Health and has written four books on health care, including "Healthwise for Life."

Bill Bengen: Forget the Past. Set Bold Goals for the Future.

Remind yourself that there is nothing you can do about the past. Regret is a ghost, wasted energy and unfulfilling. You can, however, take action now to prevent future regrets. Set bold goals during retirement and work steadily to achieve them. Failure at attaining your goals fully is no cause for regret (we all run out of time, sooner or later); not setting any goals at all is entirely regrettable.

 Bill Bengen is the president of Bengen Financial Services. He originated the 4% rule for retirement withdrawals.

 Wade Pfau: Trying and Failing Is Better Than Not Trying at All

One of the best ideas I have seen is to try to minimize the potential for regret by finding a happy compromise. For instance, Nobel laureate Harry Markowitz says that he minimizes the risk with his investments by choosing a balanced 50/50 portfolio of stocks and bonds. If stocks go up, he regrets not having his entire portfolio invested in stocks, and if stocks go down, he regrets having any stocks at all. Before knowing whether stocks are going to go up or down, he minimizes the potential for regret by balancing this regret in both directions. At another level as well, it seems that the regret associated with trying something and failing is less than the regret associated with not having tried anything at all.

 Wade D. Pfau (@WadePfau <> ) is a professor of retirement income in the financial and retirement planning Ph.D. program at The American College. He blogs on retirement research and maintains the Retirement Researche.

Marc Freedman: Don't Just Learn From Your Regrets. Act on Them, Too.

There's no escaping midlife regret, but we can avoid becoming trapped by these emotions. If fact, we can even learn from the lessons these uncomfortable emotions are sometimes trying to teach us. Buried in the regrets of the middle years are often essential truths about what matters most, insights that may have eluded us in our youths but that are now more recognizable with the benefit of time and perspective.

What's more, in the context of longer lives, we can do more than harvest these lessons. We can act on them. We are not condemned to be prisoners of the past for the simple reason that today, at midlife and beyond, we still have a future. Most individuals in their 50s and 60s can reasonably expected two or three decades of life and health stretching out in front of them—a second chance to live out lives informed by our experience and aligned with our priorities. (One can argue that in the past wisdom was wasted on the old—just as we figured out what matters, we were too worn out personally or rejected by society to do much with these realizations.)

For a case study in the positive power of regret consider the case of Tom Cox. A lawyer in Portland, Maine, Mr. Cox spent the bulk of his career working for financial institutions, in the process becoming a leading expert on the foreclosure process. He even wrote "the book" on how to conduct foreclosures in Maine. But over time the direction of his career took a steady toll on his soul. When the mortgage crisis first hit, Mr. Cox saw many people—individuals he knew on a first-name basis—thrust out of their homes, their lives ruined. He became severely depressed by what was unfolding in front of him, and his role in it. Mr. Cox's family unraveled. He quit the law, convinced that he "was done."

Consumed by regret, Mr. Cox even started working as a carpenter, building houses while he was trying to rebuild his life. After a while he decided that he'd try to salvage his legal training and expertise, using them in service of new priorities. He approached a local legal-services agency and began helping individuals of modest means hang on to their homes.

Defending a woman named Nicolle Bradbury, Cox uncovered the "robo-signing" scandal, conducting depositions that contributed to a $25 billion settlement and exposed some of the most egregious practices of the mortgage industry. Today Mr. Cox is involved in training hundreds of lawyers around the country to better defend victims of illegal mortgage practices.

For Tom Cox, regret was an essential part of the road to renewal—the spearhead for his most important contributions as a lawyer. (For more, here's a video of Tom Cox talking about his experience:

 Marc Freedman is CEO and founder of <> . is a nonprofit organization working to promote encore careers—second acts for the greater good.