Martin Luther King Jr. Quotes

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. 

There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.

~Martin Luther King Jr. 

Inspirational Quote of the Week

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”
- Steve Jobs

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Social Security Tax Change

Two years ago, the Federal government implemented a temporary payroll tax cut that reduced the employee contribution to Social Security tax from 6.2 percent to 4.2 percent.  On January 1, 2013, that temporary payroll tax cut expired; therefore, effective January 1, the employee contribution rate deducted for Social Security tax returned to the original 6.2%.  That change is reflected in this weeks paychecks, and it is the reason the net amount of your paycheck may be lower than anticipated.

Sincerely 

Human Resources

My two cents on the Matter...

 

Although I had no idea this reduction was ever granted, I never really take the time to look at my deductions because it repulses me, so I couldn't help but get a little pissed off.  2013 just started and already my bring home pay was reduced, my internet service is scheduled to go up and we are also in jeopardy of paying higher school taxes among other hikes.  

Being a middle class worker is certainly not for me anymore. it is getting harder and harder to pay bills on time each month and I can only see things getting a lot worse before it gets any better.  Our Government is not looking out for those who work hard for a living, so its up to one to decide what else can one do to bring a little extra cash in the house.  We don't want to do anything illegal but we can learn from the experts on how to rise above it unscarred, if even possible.  

Would be wonderful to hear what you think...  

 

New Year, New Challenges

As we celebrate a new year most of us anticipate change, new endeavors and possibly new relationships.  We begin the year planning our next move with glee and hope to stick to certain resolutions.  The problem isn't the resolution itself, but following through and sticking to it. 



We all start out with high hopes and expectations, some of us obtain them but some of us also fail.  Either way its great, and no need to put yourself down if it didn't pan out.  Move on and live life the best you can.  What may not have worked out this year, may just as easily workout in the next.  Every day is a gift, better to embrace and enjoy each one than dwell on the what ifs. 

Since it is still early on on the year I hope and wish you all the major components that make life worth living, and they are.  Love, family, faith, belief in thyself and happiness.  If you have them all you are surely blessed and if you have one out of the five you are too. 

~Susan

Pattern of Pain-Withholding

Pattern of Pain

The most common form of withholding is what we commonly call "the silent treatment," but withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding. 

No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space. Take some time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern. 

If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking. Give praise to someone you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become. What was learned over a course of a life cannot be changed overnight—remember, one day at a time. 

Courtesy of: Daily OM